Thank you for adding some historical context to this, I didn't know. The trend I'm personally seeing in my circles (which may be encouraging) is living a soft life that's more like soil ready to be tilled, planted, receptive to and supportive of growth. But I have definitely seen aspects of what you're addressing in our society too, especially on social media.
Whew, Dr. Chanequa! You swung the door wide open on this toxic trend.
When I had a podcast called "Dear Soft Black Woman," people would send me soft life reels and posts all the time and I kept saying "this is not what I am talking about," in 50-11 different ways. One of the most important things I read in your book "Too Heavy a Yoke," was that you emphasized countering the StrongBlackWoman myth has to require more than just presenting a stereotype of her exact opposite. I still think about that part all the time in my approach to "a Gentle Landing," (a choice of words I made to make my distinctions clear).
Thank you thank you thank you always for facilitating clarity and freedom through your words.
I was trying to keep an open mind to it, but my dive into Tik Tok confirmed that it was as bad (and worse) as I feared. It is so toxic. I also prefer "gentle" to "soft."
Thank you for adding some historical context to this, I didn't know. The trend I'm personally seeing in my circles (which may be encouraging) is living a soft life that's more like soil ready to be tilled, planted, receptive to and supportive of growth. But I have definitely seen aspects of what you're addressing in our society too, especially on social media.
Whew, Dr. Chanequa! You swung the door wide open on this toxic trend.
When I had a podcast called "Dear Soft Black Woman," people would send me soft life reels and posts all the time and I kept saying "this is not what I am talking about," in 50-11 different ways. One of the most important things I read in your book "Too Heavy a Yoke," was that you emphasized countering the StrongBlackWoman myth has to require more than just presenting a stereotype of her exact opposite. I still think about that part all the time in my approach to "a Gentle Landing," (a choice of words I made to make my distinctions clear).
Thank you thank you thank you always for facilitating clarity and freedom through your words.
I was trying to keep an open mind to it, but my dive into Tik Tok confirmed that it was as bad (and worse) as I feared. It is so toxic. I also prefer "gentle" to "soft."