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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

I get so much out of reading what you write. Such a model got health! And I am empowered to do much the same in my life.

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Thank you!

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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

Amen 🙏🏾 Praying that I can work toward that kind of freedom. SELFCARE for me is a daily journey of reclaiming myself

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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

Same!

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Yes indeed!

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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

I so celebrate with you "the power to say no and to leave tasks not finished." We are leaving the super woman syndrome to the side for good and claiming REST justice to its fullest. In my humble opinion, I see that as you disappoint others, you honor God's temple.

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I love that, Sandra: “as you disappoint others, you honor God’s temple.”

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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

Really good stuff!

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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

Amen! 🙏

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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

Love this! Thank you for your wisdom, and the grace-filled way you share it.

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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

This post is an encouragement to me as I continually pray that I would no longer center the approval of those who would be disappointed to find me human. As I live the most human life I can for myself.

Thank you, as always, for writing liberating words that speak life into my deepest aspirations.

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I join you in that prayer.

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Sep 8Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

This is so empowering!!! I need to learn that is now safe to disappoint. I’m no longer in a place of abuse.

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It’s a hard thing to learn!

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I love this concept! As a caregiver, this speaks to my soul. I am trying my best to incorporate more of these moments in my day. Thanks for sharing!

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Just right. This could also be called "How to disrupt white supremacy culture." Amen amen!

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And don't forget the patriarchy!

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Wow. This is amazing. Thanks for sharing your wisdom here. ❤️

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I appreciate so much No Trifling Matter. I am really applying so many things you teach about self care in your book and have in the past 2 months gifted 3 women the book. Thank you Dr. Chanequa

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Love the way you encourage us to be about self care!

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You are such an inspiration, and you speak such challenging truth. I'm now working to digest this and grow in maturity! Thank you for writing.

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Sep 13Liked by Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

Good pointers for learning how to say no or know when you're over your limit. As a member of my HOA board, everyone would give me funny looks when I promptly walk out after the meetings run over one hour. I politely explain that I have other things to do. Now, they follow the agenda more closely and eliminate some of the busy talk. I've also learned to choose what things are most important to me and not make everything a priority.

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This is what I’m going to start doing as well! I did it last week with a faculty meeting. I’m not sure why people don’t seem to respect meeting times and agendas anymore.

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Your words always seem to meet me at the right place and time. I’m working on disappointing others and embracing self care. Challenging but necessary growing edges. Thank you, thank you 🙏🏾

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